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One of the problems we encounter when stopping drinking for good is reconciling ourselves with the decision to never ever take a drink want to have some drinks in nevers. When we start drinking it all seems like sweetness and light. We have fun evenings out, hangovers are manageable and even the bad ones we take on the chin and see them as a right of passage, something to laugh about and want to have some drinks in nevers proud of.

Over the years we start to think that drinking takes far more than it gives, and this creates the desire to stop. This is because our mind-set at this time is that although the bad outweighs the good, there is still good to it.

The main problem is that we get the good, then the bad the following day. These are the years we tend to yo-yo between drinking and not drinking. So we have the drink. Then the next day we feel want to have some drinks in nevers and regret drinking. Because people keep jumping from one to the other they start to question their own sanity, they think there is something deeply wrong with them.

How can you want to drink so badly one minute, then regret it so bitterly the next? In fact there is nothing incomprehensible or insane about it, we do something that is in principle identical to this virtually every day of our lives, xxx sex cartoon comic porno several times a day.

Indeed it is a central facet of our society. When we buy something we exchange money for goods. We swop something we want for something else we want. Most of the times when we buy something we pay upfront, we swop the money for what we want in a single transaction. Often when we buy something it is tangible and lasts for some time.

We get it and keep it for a while. But this is not always the case. Think for example of paying for a holiday on a credit card or getting out a loan to pay for it. You go on holiday and have all the pleasure, then when the holiday is over you then have to go through the pain of paying for it. This is essentially what we are doing during these years of stopping and starting. We are getting some relief from the stresses and strains of life, but then the next day we are having to pay for it.

However the lucky few move on from this stage. This is the main purpose of Alcohol Explained and indeed many other books on the same subject. If you can get to the stage of understanding that alcohol provides no boost at all, then this is the key to actually allow you to stop. The desire to drink has gone, and so has the want to have some drinks in nevers. However there is another element, another stage if you will.

This is reconciling yourself to your decision to never ever drink again. Over the years we tend to use alcohol as our outlet, our pressure valve, it is the thing we use to relieve the stresses and strains of life.

These can be huge, monumental and life changing calamities, or they may just be the constant minor stresses and strains that form the background noise to our lives; bills, kids, upkeep of the house and work. In want to have some drinks in nevers minds we link drinking to nothing want to have some drinks in nevers than being able to return to our youth, to accept our mortality, to accept our lives without resentment.

Understanding that alcohol has caused rather than relieved these fears provides the key to our freedom, but for some there is a feeling that in removing drinking we have removed our ability to feel carefree again. To shrug off the stresses and strains of life and to feel young and bold again.

These are generally people who can see the benefits of stopping, who understand how alcohol fools us into believing that it is giving to us when in fact it is only taking and partially restoring, but who still struggle with the concept of never, ever drinking again.

On one level they feel that they have given up their ability to shrug off the worries of the world and to feel young again. Stopping drinking feels like cutting off a link want to have some drinks in nevers their younger, happier, selves. This is a subtle but a key point, and in essence is exactly the same mechanism as every other aspect of want to have some drinks in nevers. Alcohol at the very least disturbs our sleep, prevents us from absorbing key nutrients, interferes with the delicate chemical want to have some drinks in nevers of our minds, and for all these reasons leaves us far less mentally resilient than we would otherwise be.

It then partially anaesthetises those fears and thus provides the illusion of relieving worry, when in actuality it has either caused it, or has greatly exacerbated it in the first place. The feeling of being young again, of being carefree, of facing your own mortality and accepting the course your life is running, and accepting all these things with a sense of humour and an appreciation of the ridiculous, comes from mental resilience, self-confidence and self-assurance.

These are all want to have some drinks in nevers that alcohol robs you of and then partially restores. These are things you can only fully obtain from weeks of good quality sleep, of allowing your body to absorb all the key nutrients it needs, and above all by no longer interfering with your brains delicate chemical balance.

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. Email Address. Thank you for putting the effort into writing the truth about drinking and more. Thank you for serving our country. This is so true. I appreciate your amazing insight and ability to write this down for so many of us to read and take in.

Thank you! Fantastic article! Bedtime reading! Thank you, a million times over! This is the best!! You are so right! Sleeping soooooooo much better! I am one of the people you described in this post! Wow I was get to g depressed there for a minute as we went down the road to meaningless life and mortality… want to have some drinks in nevers you brought it back and inspired want to have some drinks in nevers once again to a desire for great health and mentel resilience.

Great article. You make an excellent point! Thanks for your book. Happy days???? Thank you so much for yet another well explained article. I so agree with thoughts and there is a sadness in that each if us us entirely responsible for where we find ourselves on our path through life.

The word courage comes to mind here. I am finding the courage to be totally responsible for all of my life, each moment and decision. The only way I can do that is by being AF. Now I stop blaming life, others and anything else.

Thank you. Your insight is always spot on. Not at seeking ladies in santa cruz del quiche — far from it. It was a bit of a light bulb moment and completely changed my attitude to a life without alcohol. It was a gradual process but I am closer to that teenager than ever in my adult life. I so agree with you Victoria as well. I have now been AF for 6 months and I feel so much more like my younger pre-drinking self than when I was chasing that care-free feeling with alcohol!

I just keep telling myself that I am getting back to my youth, just the one before the booze! Keep up the good work William, your book has done so much for me.

It made me realise that if I were to start want to have some drinks in nevers, I would just be back to where I left off. This realisation is keeping me from drinking ever again, and yes it is a scary thought sometimes but I am feeling so much better now than ever before. Fantastic top shelf book. I have now found your website and am absorbed in the blogs This blog so resonates with me.

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