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I decried feminism. I felt myself in constant competition with other women. Shamefully, I was quick to criticize and make fun of them, especially to men. Allegations of violence against women? Women who work in sports are supposed to be hot, but not high maintenance; outspoken, but not political; knowledgeable, but not so much as to threaten the guys.

The sports media landscape is littered with cool girls trying to master this high-wire act. Some are cool girls for career advancement, some are cool girls simply to survive. Either way, the cool girl is more accepted by fans than any other embodiment of woman in sports media. And so the cool girl thrives, often leaving a trail of regular girl bodies in her wake.

So ready to declare that Trump was welcome to grab their pussy? How can these women, many of whom spoke openly about their own experience with sexual harassment, be so nonchalant about voting for a man who behaves so boorishly around other women?

What makes want a cool girl in welland woman turn away from issues that affect every single one of her sisters? What compels her to step across the void to side want a cool girl in welland Donald Trump and the kind of men who supported him? Writer and activist Yasmin Nair agrees that the cool girl is a creation want a cool girl in welland our society, rather than a phase some women go through.

Writer Jessica Luther once told me that there are many rewards for sexism in our society, no matter your gender. That was certainly true in my cool girl phase or at least, I was under the impression that it was. Once, I sat in a circle of men who were discussing another student, who probably could have modeled her way through law school. They discussed everything about her, from the tiny scar on her chin to the supposed cellulite on her seemingly perfect thighs to the way her vagina probably smelled.

By the end of the conversation, they had reduced this smart, striking, funny want a cool girl in welland to nothing more than a sexual depository. I said nothing. For me, the cool girl was a phase. But what about all the middle-aged women viciously attacking Hillary Clinton and the women who accused Trump of sexual assault during the campaign?

Nair argues that the real issue lies in the evolution, or lack thereof, of feminism itself. The problem with playing the role of the cool girl was that, eventually, I wound up hemmed in by my character.

In the end, being the cool girl got me nothing. Lalonde is not surprised by my revelation. Now, 15 years out of my cool girl phase, I consider myself a strong advocate for feminism and equality. Despite my own history, I worry that internalized misogyny is so deep-seated in some of these young women that they will never come around. Lalonde is more optimistic that cool girls of all ages can still be reached. Thank God For Identity Politics. A president who respects women, diversity, and the LGBT community.

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